We all have a past. Can’t get around it. Me? I just tried to forget it. Work around it, inspite of it… Sad to say – that which is ignored or disowned will wreak havoc – a lot of it. It will leak out your ears in unconscious behavior that leaves you looking in the mirror and wondering “How in the hell have I ended up here…. Again??” At least, that’s what happened to me – or – kept happening to me for decades until I took the plunge into my own dark, dank basement and started opening the boxes. Then doing the work of sifting through the contents and shedding light, love and compassion on the not-so-savory contents of my own inglorious past. It was messy and hard but totally worth it….
These are some of the tools and practitioners that helped me make sense of my findings, get over myself and get on with the business of creating:
Money Matters: Margaret Lynch is the absolute queen of unearthing your issues around money and the icky crap buried in your past that keeps you from realizing your true worth and value and translating that into your current experience. http://margaretmlynch.com/
Negative Emotions: If you’re tired of fighting road rage, simmering anger at yourself, your kids, your boss, depression, hopelessness, - if you are tired of keeping a lid on your emotional spin cycle and putting that stupid happy face on – check out Robert Smith. He has a totally simple, fast and very effective way of acknowledging negative emotions and then releasing them so they aren’t dictating your every move and sapping your energy. http://www.fastereft.com/
Giving Too Much: Do you give yourself to everyone but yourself? I know I did and wondered why I didn’t have a clue what made me happy. I was giving it all away and wondering why I stewed with resentment – buried of course. Terri Amos Britt has a number of tools on her website and a great book. While her target market is overworked and overwrought mothers – I think it’s fantastic for anyone who wants to get some clear balance back in their lives. http://www.theenlightenedmom.com/
Personal Sabotage: I used to hide all the parts of me that I was ashamed of, that wasn’t perfect. I realized that I had to own and befriend my shadow side selves or I was going to keep sabotaging every effort, every achievement and keep running in circles. The Shadow Effect is an amazing book by Deepak Chopra, Debbie Ford and Marianne Williamson that helped me make peace with these members of my tribe. I can’t say enough about how important this work is to really getting whole and getting on with it. http://theshadoweffect.com/
Debbie Ford – http://www.debbieford.com/ Debbie is just in a category all her own. She is the queen of recognizing, claiming and integrating your shadow side and moving to tue wholeness. I have several of her books and found The Dark Side of The Light Chasers and The Secret of the Shadow particularly helpful and illuminating. Her website is full of additional resources. A must for anyone who is tired of hiding and ready to look at and love what they used to want to disown in themselves…